Justin's Example
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I love to travel, but I hate to pack. However hard I try, I inevitably take too much. With some success, I've been working to break the habit. This event occurred this weekend while I was packing to visit our son and his wife. We were going to fly and be away for only a few days. As I looked at my stack of unread books and magazines, trying to decide which to take, I began to work myself up. I felt confusion, head pressure, disbelief at the number of items yet to read, and jealousy as I watched my husband easily select three magazines from the table and move on to do something else. I began to spot that I could be average, just as he is, so I decided to choose three books, three magazines and walk out of the room. Since I intended to read them all sometime, it didn't matter which I took. I walked away after selecting. I did read, enjoy and endorse for my efforts. Before my Recovery training, I anguished over making the "right" choices—or any choices at all. I wanted to be prepared for everything I wound need or want while away, and I wanted perfection. I would work myself up into frenzies over many things. When arriving at my destination, I would blame myself if I didn't have exactly what I thought was correct. I wasn’t flexible or spontaneous and always acted in extremes. Further Spotting! David— Before our Recovery training, every event is a major issue. Justin spotted his event as a triviality, and there was no right or wrong in the situation. Laurie— Justin learned to have the courage to make mistakes. He doesn’t have to be perfect. Sandy— Justin is no longer symptom led; he’s self-led. What does that mean? average—Justin could simply select several magazines without creating an issue or emergency. This would be the "average" way to approach the situation.
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