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Jane's ExampleAbout a month ago I sat down to dinner at the eating disorders recovery home where I currently reside. On my plate was what appeared to be a gargantuan piece of cheese. I realized that if I didn't eat the cheese and the rest of the food on my plate, I would be promptly discharged and I began to work myself up.I began to have racing thoughts, "I can't eat this, I will blow up like a huge balloon and die. Cheese is gross and fatty and I can't put it in my mouth". I had heart palpitations, air hunger, perspiration. I also began crying uncontrollably. Then I began my Recovery spotting. I spotted imagination on fire, and that I was having temper towards the recovery home. I spotted that I could excuse rather than accuse the recovery home. I spotted that eating the cheese was minimal compared to my mental health. I also spotted temperamental lingo "gargantuan". Before Recovery, I would have left the table and gotten discharged. I would have eaten nothing, starved, yelled and raged at the staff of the home, and basically made a simple triviality into a loud destructive scene.
Further Spotting!Helen -- Jane said before Recovery she would have left the table. This time she controlled her muscles to stay at the table and looked through her temperamental reaction by doing some realistic spotting.Betty -- It was good that she spotted the temperamental lingo. A simple piece of cheese can be eaten by an average person. If it was gargantuan, it would look exceptional to anyone. Ann -- It's important for Jane to remember to endorse herself. Her example shows she used a lot of effort in controlling her thoughts and muscles. This kind of effort is hard! What does that mean?temper -- In Recovery, the concept of temper is basic to the Recovery method. We talk about temper in terms of the judgment of right and wrong as they apply to the trivialities of every day life. There are two types of temper: fearful temper which is the idea that I am wrong (and often appears as self-disgust, self-pity, guilt, shame, etc.) and angry temper that someone else is wrong or has done me wrong (and may come in the form of hatred, resentment, loathing, etc.) |